What not to do on a First Date
18 things you should not do on a first date
First dates are hard.
They’re uncomfortable, awkward and stressful. We’ve all witnessed one in progress and it wasn’t pretty. Mainly because the people on it make so many mistakes that even if you sit 3 tables down you can’t help but shake your head with disbelief. So here goes.
Don’t look like a slob
A tuxedo is too much but she will not be impressed if you come to the date looking too comfortable. Women love it when their date looks like he stood in front of the mirror for a few minutes. She loves the fact that you put in the effort.
Don’t put too much cologne
Scent and pheromones are important but the biggest mistake you can make is to put too much on. It has to subtle. Remember that you still need to smell like yourself.
Don’t be cheap
It doesn’t mean that you have to pay for everything. Women want to contribute (but not on the first date!) but you need to show her that you’re not uptight about money. You take a stroll and you feel like getting a snack? Offer her to pay for it. She’ll appreciate it and offer to pay the next time.
Don’t tell her you like her
And don’t show her either, not in the beginning. Tell her a funny story, tell her something that you’ve noticed about her (not her looks. She already knows she’s pretty). Let the conversation flow. If you say it too soon she’ll think you’re lying. Same goes to compliments. Show her you like her through actions.
Don’t be logical
Women make decisions based on their emotions. Try getting her to feel happy, excited, emotional, empathic etc. by asking her questions and telling stories.
Don’t be perfect
You have to remember that women are suspicious. They’ve been hurt by men before and so they are very mistrusting and very cautious. So to them, if it looks too good to be true it probably isn’t true. They’ll keep thinking “he’s too perfect, what is he hiding?” don’t go there.
Don’t answer right away
If she says something, look at her and don’t say anything for a few seconds. You don’t even have to comment at all. Another way to go is to change the subject. Keep it interesting. Be different.
Don’t use clichés
Don’t say “You come here often?” Not even with a smile. Anything you say will be better than that. Be creative.
Don’t be heavy
Now is not the time to talk about Einstein’s theory of relativity. Start with an amusing observation, keep the conversation light.
Don’t get over excited
Try to keep cool. If you get too enthusiastic, it might turn her off.
Don’t be something that you’re not
Don’t pretend that you know what you’re doing when you don’t. Don’t try to be smarter than what you really are. Know your strengths and work with them. Women know immediately whether you’re being real or just faking it.
Don’t talk much about your ex
The girl could think that you only want her as a rebound or that you’re still hung up on her and she might not play along. On the other hand it’s good to mention other women in order to show your date that she might have some competition.
Don’t fly solo
If you feel a little unsure of yourself, a drink might help you relax. But don’t drink too much. There’s nothing worse than a come on from a handsy slurring drunk.
Don’t tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth
Honesty is good. Women appreciate it. But don’t be too honest. She doesn’t need to know that you haven’t had sex in 6 months.
Don’t be too confident
You think you are the king of the world? Keep it to yourself. There’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance.
When you say: “philosophy major, really? What are you going to do with that?” make sure you say something positive after. Mixing it up is good.
Don’t be afraid to make mistakes
Because to err is human. And if the mistake will be followed by your embarrassed smile it will, most likely, trigger her “mother Teresa” instincts and she will smile back and the date will immediately get to that very important intimate level.
Don’t stay where you’re not wanted
If you’re the one who’s doing all the talking, if you see her texting in the middle of the conversation, if you see her looking over your shoulder, if you don’t see her smile–those are all signs for you to get out of there because she’s just not into you. But that’s okay because there are plenty of other women out there. Don’t forget that.